Why is it that vacation sex is usually so much better than sex at home? On vacation, sex is more spontaneous, more enthusiastic and even more frequent. It’s so much easier to get romantic when you’ve left behind work, worries and responsibilities.
Wouldn’t it be great to have vacation feelings all year long? You can’t bring the beach to your backyard, but you can find ways to bring that vacation spark home.
Set aside some time to relax and just be together.
Put aside the to-do list for just a while.
If you enjoy alcohol, have that Pina Colada or glass of wine (just one).
Turn off the phone, the TV and all the other screens that get in the way.
Most importantly, clear your mind of whatever you need to do tomorrow, and just be in the moment.
This could be the best souvenir you bring back from vacation.
One final thought: if you aren’t having actual vacation sex, ask yourself why? Is your vacation traveling to visit family members, where sex in your childhood bedroom or on the pull-out couch is just not going to happen? Or does going on vacation mean sharing a room with the kids? Or is your typical vacation more exhausting and stressful than a week at the office?
If any of these situations apply to you, it’s no wonder there’s no such thing as “vacation sex.” Maybe you’re OK with that, or maybe you want to try something different. On the other hand, if you are spending a weekend or more in a romantic getaway for two and there’s still no sex, maybe you need more than a vacation to revitalize your relationship. If the “Hawaii cure” doesn’t do it, consider getting some professional help — it’s actually less expensive than a trip to Hawaii, and the effects last much longer!
Elaine Wilco is a Licensed Professional Counselor with over 20 years of experience. She maintains a private practice in Alpharetta focused on helping those with intimacy issues. Follow her at facebook.com/IntimacyAtlanta.